Today is a Bank Holiday Monday here in Ireland, seeing as Paddy’s Day was a Sunday. For me it doesn’t really mean much as I’m at home every day, hence todays choice.
- My Husband
- My Children
- My Step-Children
- My Step-Grandchildren
- My Family
- My Friends
- My Home
- Our Utilities
- Our Health
- Education
- Coffee
- Technology
- Being Alive
- Baby Smiles and Laughs
- Special Occasions
- Healthcare
- Being Irish
- Being a SAHM
I’m a SAHM, a Stay-At-Home-Mum.
We decided years ago, that one of us would stay at home with the children, my husband has bad memories growing up of kids being minded while the parents worked and the kids were treated really badly. Over the years we have both been the person to stay at home. There were times where I had a job, and my husband didn’t and there were times were he was out at work and I wasn’t, moreso this way as he has higher earning potential than I do. When we had only one child, we did both work for a period of time, me mostly from home and when she was almost 2yrs old I put her part-time into creche which was great for her for socialising.
To be honest, I don’t know how I could actually go to work, with four children – there’s just too much to juggle, and we don’t have anybody to help with childcare. However I know that a lot of families do have both parents working, and have no choice. And some parents need to go to work for their own mental health or they love their jobs and want to work, and they make the time they have with their kids into pure quality time. This is not a one is better than the other post, this is what works for us.
There are times where I wish that I could have a job, where I could go out to work some days and be an adult with a lunch break and clean clothes and something to use my brain for, and not just to be mum.
BUT I would not change it. I think it is so important to be around for your kids as much as you can be, and I am so thankful that I get to stay at home with mine and watch them grow and learn. They learn so much week to week, and day to day things change. And I get to be there for them, to hear about the things that happen each day. I have time to help them with their homework and their hobbies (well, technically I should have time, but not at the moment, the baby makes everything impossible).
I am so grateful we are in a position where I can stay at home with the children, and that I have a supportive husband who realises how difficult and draining it can be to stay at home (and not just think that I swan around as a lady-of-leisure) and he appreciates the work that I do at home.
Mama Fees Happy Healthy Home 